When my papa, a newly diagnosed diabetic patient on regular medications, asked me today at a hotel,
"Seni dia saah ekap khau diana.." ("Allow me to have a cup of tea with sugar please..")
All I could say was.. "yeah sure..."
I personally strongly believe..Sometimes tiny moments of happiness means a lot more than medications..!!!!
That day I was talking to one of my staffs at our department on the way to attend a camp. He hails from an interior area in Assam. He is having his wife and parents at his homeplace. Both parents are ill. He is the single earning member of the family and he can't afford their stay at Guwahati. Once in a week he goes home for one day, arranges their weekly requirements and returns back to work.
"It costs me Rs. 200/- per trip to my native place sir... With this income I can't afford more visit to my family..."
In no way I could be of any help for him, nor he did expect anything, but the way he expressed his agony in earning money in a honest way, it just touched my heart...
For him Rs. 200/- is a big issue.. For someone even 1 single rupee matters a lot.. And for somebody buying a brand new car is less than a day's income..
This is life.. Everybody has his/her own story.. And yet we've to carry on !!!
That day my mother came to GMCH for some skin related problems.. She is a known Diabetic for 7 years and on regular medications. Her health is ok, but I was sad to notice that she has lost a few kilos in last few months..
I daily interact with so many patients for their well being, but I have little time for my own parents!! As we all are staying at different places, even after being the parents of 3 grown up "kids", my parents are bound to seek help of some others for daily requirements.. And its just the tip of the iceberg!!
In today's highly competitive scenario, its the story of most of us, most of the parents.. Leaving aside very few, how many of you can say that you'll be able to live with your parents whole life? Take the example of my immediate neighbour.. Both sons are working outside along with their spouses leaving the parents alone... Even if we want to be, its not possible always to live with the family.. Think practically and you'll see... A family can't be run only on emotions, it will need money.. Not everyone is lucky enough to have their suitable workplace nearer home..
Like most of you, my parents are also never demanding, but the fact that I am not being able to devote some quality time for my parents, hurts me a lot...
Since my childhood I've witnessed... Without hampering their job responsibility, our parents entirely devoted themselves in the effort to secure our future.. They did never have a "own" life... And they are still continuing their effort to make us happy.. Most of you have most probably experienced the same..
Love thy parents.. In this era of technology, no place is far enough to care about your dear ones.. But do how many of us really care to have and spread that good will??
Yeah... We all know... we are so busy building our carrier... But isn't it true that we often forget... That our parents are also growing older and they too quite often need our support!!
That day I was invited by one of my teachers (GMCH) for dinner. His baby girl is only 5yrs old and studies in L KG. I regained my childhood for some moments and asked her what she would like to become once she grows up. The answer came from her father,
"She will become an IAS Officer.. She doesn't prefer to be a doctor."
Her instant reply was, "No, I'll become a doctor..."
The question is.. Does she know what an IAS officer is? Is she old enough to judge? Or is it such that her father will just pressurize her to be the one what he thinks to be better?
I can clearly remember, when I was a little kid, being a doctor was never my aim in life. I dreamt to be the Ice cream wala... Gradually it changed according to my stages of life and my age. Till 10th standard, my aim was to do well in my exams and to hold a top 20 rank in the board final exam. Its during my H.S. 1st and 2nd years that I realized my dream, had proper guidance of my teachers and parents and wanted to become a doctor, and now here I am in front of you. Yet I had taken admission in engineering course before the MBBS entrance results were out. Provided somehow I failed to do well in that said entrance, I would have become an engineer now in place of a doctor.
Even during my MBBS course, Ophthalmology was never my subject of choice. But it was my destiny and now I'm quite happy to be an Ophthalmologist...
You see.. Like my own case, most of you will most probably agree that this aim in life goes in a step ladder pattern.. Its never fixed. There are also some turning points and after crossing those its actually good if you don't look back, but try to focus on the same.. Yet again its never too late, and actually better if you can judge yourself properly and take another path even after that.
So what's the point to fix this aim at such an early age putting so much stress? Let the kids understand themselves first, provide proper guidance and then.. they'll just excell...
If you don't know where you are going, you'll end up someplace else. As quoted by someone, me too personally believe... My goal in life is to survive. Everything else is just a bonus...
That day I was talking to one of my friend.. Casually he told me,
"Partha, your health is somewhat better than before.. I mean after you shifted from hostel to rented flat.."
I was delighted you know.. All thanks to "Hotel Khana".. Next he said,
"Your tummy is somewhat coming out!!!"
Ok.. I didn't have any problem..
But what he added next was,
"Your marriage is approaching I suppose ... So... Stay PRESENTABLE till then atleast ... Ha ha"
Its then... that he stressed upon the word "presentable"... I was in real tension... :-):-)
Today is 14th November, Children's day and like always most of us will complete our responsibility by just wishing the same. I forgot to mention... some of us will organize some creative activity for the children. Yeah, these are very much essential for the mental development of the youngsters.
But today I'm going to mention about some needy kids... Come across Pediatrics and Haematology ward in any hospital and you'll meet lots of cute innocent kids who need blood transfusion every month for their survival. Authorities have made the arrangements which can be done on their part. If we, the eligible donors aged 18 to 60 years of age, come forward to donate blood voluntarily then the burden will be much relieved for these kids and parents.
We all know life is not easy for them, but we all can make these lives easier... Somebody rightfully said.. The only gift is a portion of thyself and all that it costs is a little love...
That day one of my junior told me, "Partha da, you seem to be happy always."
I just smiled, didn't reply... But my heart said, "You are right. I seem to be, not actually, but try to be happy always.."
Like everyone I have my own problems..I think, I can fill up half of Facebook writing my agonies, sorrows, problems etc etc...
But somebody said, "Moments of happiness are the tiny episodes in the whole drama of life..." and personally I strongly believe that...
