Day before yesterday one of my distant relatives called me. Her son is undergoing treatment at a hospital in Guwahati for more than one month and she called me to enquire about his present condition.. She was vigorously crying during the 1st half of the call and I became too emotional for her.. You can easily imagine, anybody can understand a mother's feelings when her young married son with 2 little kids suffers from some diseases which take too long to get cured.. For more than 1 month her son and daughter in law are staying at the hospital leaving behind their kids with her.. I informed her that I'll surely talk to the consulting doctors and let her know about the present status.. She could feel my sympathy towards her and stopped crying; but what she said next just totally changed my attitude towards her..
"Both of them (her son and daughter in law) are at Guwahati leaving the kids with me and now I am having much trouble managing their children.. Ask the doctors to discharge him if the treatment might be any more prolonged.."
You know, I never expected a mother (and a grandmother) to speak like this.. She is having trouble managing her grandchildren, so her son should be discharged from the hospital even at the cost of his life!!! Simply unbelievable.. !!!
I asked her, "Actually Auntie, I am getting confused what's the main problem that is bothering you.. Is it that your son is suffering from some diseases or is it that your son is not getting cured and his treatment is taking a long course.. Or is it simply that you are having trouble to manage your grandchildren?"
She replied, "Let them handle their kids themselves!!!"
I was shocked to hear all these.. I replied, "Just because you've some trouble managing two little kids aged 5 and 8 years, you want me to ask the doctors to discharge your son from the hospital even if his condition deteriorates after that.. I can't do that.. But I'll surely enquire about his well being.. And I wanna tell you one thing.. For the first time in my entire life I've met such a mother and a grandmother like you!!!"
Whatever may be the reason, I can never imagine a mother for whom the life of her son is less valuable than her trouble... And what is the trouble? Its being the guardian of 2 little kids for some days or months..
You know, till that day I had this misinterpretation that in this present era only the kids have become too materialistic.. But I am sorry to say, I've seen degradation of moral values and destruction of motherly affection in this lady.. And I hope, I won't meet any such in future..
But if you think in other way, there might be history of neglect and misbehavior to that mother from that son and daughter in law in their good times.. It might be like she is too fond of her grandchildren, but sometimes when her mental agony as the neglected mother takes over the charge over her affection, her emotion outbursts and she speaks out something which seems to be inappropriate for a mother and a grandmother.. Recently there happened an incident where a daughter murdered her mother by some professional killers just to have some monetary benefit.. There are lots more examples...
Nothing more to say.. Rest to think and decide is upto you!!!!
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