This Sunday I watched a programme "Ji kom Socha kom" [I'll tell only the truth] @Assamese Channel DY365 anchored by Dr. Akashitora... The guest for the episode was one lady with two little kids whose husband has married for the second time, that too at a time when she was perfectly alive and staying with her husband without a divorce ...
First of all let me clarify something... I've not written this post to judge anybody... Their case is under trial and the law will take its own due course... What I am trying is to highlight some important points...
You see... That lady was wearing Sindur (vermilion) even after she was mercilessly rejected by her husband... What would you say? I just feel pity for the husband !!!Okay, I don't know anything about the reasons for the creation of distance and tension between the two, but I know one thing for sure that if the husband really needs to marry for the second time, they will have to legally separate beforehand...
And what to say about the kids!!! Both kids were present there beside their mother on the sets of the show... And about the little one, you won't have any other option than to adore her... She is around 3yrs old, and when she did sing a few lines of a song, I felt something heavier inside.... I don't understand how a father can leave aside such two kids for another woman... I know... Love is blind, but specifically in this situation this reasoning just lacks any positive aspect... Yet this lady tried to share her husband with an another woman keeping in view of the future of the kids, but somehow she just failed... Personally I can never blame her at least for her inability to cope with her husband's second wife... Really, its not that much easy !!!
Now coming to the society, according to that lady, most of the people from her locality blames her because she couldn't live with her husband's second wife... As informed you earlier, I once again say that I won't even try to judge whether she is speaking the whole or part truth... But personally as a physician, I have witnessed quite a no. of such cases in which the society tries to justify the husband's act eventually making the life of the wife even more complicated..
This is the high time for a change... The concept of "Sati Saavitri" should have been over by now... Such kind of husbands should also learn to be loyal to their wives... But to be true, in a society where a rapist gets the "PUNISHMENT" by some of the "local self proclaimed law makers" to marry the victim, I really don't see much hope for a change...!!!
First of all let me clarify something... I've not written this post to judge anybody... Their case is under trial and the law will take its own due course... What I am trying is to highlight some important points...
You see... That lady was wearing Sindur (vermilion) even after she was mercilessly rejected by her husband... What would you say? I just feel pity for the husband !!!Okay, I don't know anything about the reasons for the creation of distance and tension between the two, but I know one thing for sure that if the husband really needs to marry for the second time, they will have to legally separate beforehand...
And what to say about the kids!!! Both kids were present there beside their mother on the sets of the show... And about the little one, you won't have any other option than to adore her... She is around 3yrs old, and when she did sing a few lines of a song, I felt something heavier inside.... I don't understand how a father can leave aside such two kids for another woman... I know... Love is blind, but specifically in this situation this reasoning just lacks any positive aspect... Yet this lady tried to share her husband with an another woman keeping in view of the future of the kids, but somehow she just failed... Personally I can never blame her at least for her inability to cope with her husband's second wife... Really, its not that much easy !!!
Now coming to the society, according to that lady, most of the people from her locality blames her because she couldn't live with her husband's second wife... As informed you earlier, I once again say that I won't even try to judge whether she is speaking the whole or part truth... But personally as a physician, I have witnessed quite a no. of such cases in which the society tries to justify the husband's act eventually making the life of the wife even more complicated..
This is the high time for a change... The concept of "Sati Saavitri" should have been over by now... Such kind of husbands should also learn to be loyal to their wives... But to be true, in a society where a rapist gets the "PUNISHMENT" by some of the "local self proclaimed law makers" to marry the victim, I really don't see much hope for a change...!!!
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