অবিশ্বাস ৷

দশমমানত পঢ়া ছোৱালীজনী মাকৰ লগত মোৰ ওচৰলৈ চকুৰ কিবা অসুবিধাৰ বাবে আহিছিল ৷ আৰ্থিকভাৱে একেবাৰেই দূৰ্বল পৰিয়াল এটাৰ জীয়ৰী তাই ৷ অপুষ্টি আৰু ৰক্তহীনতাই তাইৰ দেহাটোক যেন কাবু কৰি পেলাইছিল ৷

দৰকাৰী পৰীক্ষা নিৰীক্ষাৰ অন্তত মই মাকক ক'লোঁ,

"তাইৰ চকুৰ বিশেষ অসুবিধা নাই বাইদেউ ৷ কিন্তু ছোৱালীজনী একেবাৰেই দুৰ্বল ৷ তেজ একদমেই কম ৷ আপুনি সোনকালেই মেডিচিন বিশেষজ্ঞ এজনক দেখুৱাওকচোন তাইক ৷"

ছোৱালীজনী শোকত ভাগি পৰিছিল ৷ উচুপি উচুপি তাই কৈছিল,

"দুমাহমানৰপৰা মোৰ মাহেকীয়া একেবাৰে অনিয়মীয়া ছাৰ ৷ নামতহে হৈছে বুলিব পাৰি ৷ মায়ে বেলেগ কিবা সন্দেহ কৰি আছে ৷ সেইদিনা প্ৰস্ৰাৱৰ পৰীক্ষা এটাও কৰাইছে ফাৰ্মাছী এখনৰপৰা কিবা এটা কিনি আনি ৷ সেইটোত নিগেটিভ পোৱাৰ পিছতো মায়ে মোক সন্দেহ কৰিবলৈ এৰা নাই ৷ আপুনিয়েই মাক বুজাওক না ছাৰ, মাহেকীয়া স্ৰাৱ হ'বলৈও দেহত অলপমান তেজ লাগিবটো  !"

#শ্লীলতা_অশ্লীলতা_আৰু_অপ্ৰিয়_সত্য, #ডাঃ_কুমাৰ_পাৰ্থ_প্ৰতিম

গল্প: এচিকুট দুষ্টামি ৷ ডাঃ কুমাৰ পাৰ্থ প্ৰতিম ৷

★★""এচিকুট দুষ্টামি ৷""★★

চিনেমা এখন চাই আছিলোঁ ৷ ৰাতিৰ ভাতসাঁজ খাই উঠাৰ পিছত হেলান পাৰি বিচনাত বাগৰি চিনেমা চোৱাৰ মজাই সুকীয়া ৷ চিনেমাখনৰ নায়িকাগৰাকী ধৰি লওঁক সুকুমাৰ বুলি ল'ৰা এজনৰ বাকদত্তা ৷ মাজতে নায়কৰ আবিৰ্ভাৱ ৷ নায়ক একপক্ষীয়ভাবে নায়িকাৰ প্ৰেমত পৰিল ৷ ঘটনাক্ৰমে নায়িকাৰ লগত একেলগে ঘূৰা ফিৰা কৰাৰ সুবিধাও পালে নায়কে ৷ কিছুদিনৰ পিছত যেতিয়া নায়কে নায়িকাক ঘৰমুৱা ৰেল এখনত উঠাই থৈ আহিবলৈ ৰেল ষ্টেচনলৈ গ'ল, সুকুমাৰ নায়িকাৰ অপেক্ষাত আগৰে পৰাই ৰৈ আছিল ৷ কিছু 'চিনেমেটিক' আবেগিক মুহুৰ্তত তেতিয়াহে নায়িকাই নায়কৰ তেওঁৰ প্ৰতি উদ্ভৱ হোৱা উমাল প্ৰেমৰ আভাস পালে ৷ নায়িকাৰো হৃদয়ত প্ৰেমৰ ৰক্তজৱা প্ৰস্ফুটিত হ'ল ৷ সুকুমাৰে পানীৰ বটল এটা আনিবলৈ যোৱাৰ সুবিধাতে দুয়োজনে সাৱটা সাৱটি কৰি অনুভৱৰ চুমা দুটামানো খালে য'তে ত'তে ৷ এটা সময়ত সুকুমাৰে নায়িকাক লৈ ৰেলত উঠি গুছি গ'ল ৷ নায়ক আৰু নায়িকাৰ বিচ্ছেদৰ মুহুৰ্তখিনি বেছ কিছু আবেগিক কৰি উপস্থাপন কৰা হ'ল ৷ বিৰহ বেদনা সন্নিবিষ্ট সংগীত এটিৰ সুৰ ভাঁহি আহিল টেলিভিছনৰ পৰ্দাৰ পৰা ৷ মোৰ ওচৰতে বহি একেলগে চিনেমাখন উপভোগ কৰি থকা মোৰ শ্ৰীমতীয়ে মোক কিবা এটা ক'ব বিচাৰিলে ৷ মই তেওলৈ চালোঁ ৷ তেওঁৰ চকুত পানী ৷ কি যে ক'ম আৰু, জানেই নহয়, ছোৱালীবোৰ (মহিলাবোৰ বুলি ক'বলৈ ভয় লাগে, কিজানিবা শ্ৰীমতীয়ে বেয়াই পায়! ) অলপ বেছিকৈয়ে চেণ্টিমেণ্টেল ৷ তাতে আকৌ টিভিত চলিছে বিৰহ বেদনা ! ডিভিডিটোৰ 'পজ' বটনটো টিপি ধৰিলোঁ ৷

"কিবা ক'বা পৰী?"

"নায়কজনলৈ বেয়াই লাগে নহয়নে প্ৰিয়ম? পায়ো হেৰুৱালে নায়িকাজনীক! "

"দুখ নকৰিবা ৷ চিনেমাখনৰ আধাতকৈও বেছি আছে এতিয়াও ৷ নায়ক নায়িকাৰ মিলন হ'ব অৱশেষত ৷"

"সেইটোও হয় অৱশ্যে !"

"কিন্তু কি জানানে পৰী? মোৰ সুকুমাৰৰ কথা ভাবিহে বেয়া লাগিছে ৷"

"কিয়?"

"প্ৰেক্টিকেল উদাহৰণ এটা দিওঁ ৰ'বা তোমাক ৷ আমাৰ এংগেজমেণ্টৰ পিছত আৰু বিয়াৰ আগত তোমাক যদি বেলেগ ল'ৰা এটাই ভাল পোৱা আৰম্ভ কৰিলেহেঁতেন? "

"মই তাক নাপাত্তা কৰি দিলোঁ হয় ৷"

"কিন্তু কেনেবাকৈ শুদ্ধ বা ভুলবশতঃ 'বাই চান্স' তুমিও যদি তাৰ প্ৰেমত পৰি গ'লাহেঁতেন, তেতিয়া মোৰ কেনে লাগিলহয়? মোৰ কোমল কলিজাটো ভঙি চিঙি টুকুৰা টুকুৰ নহ'লহেতেন জানোঁ?"

"ধেৎ, কিযে কোৱা প্ৰিয়ম ! "

"এইবোৰ প্ৰেক্টিকেল কথা পৰী ৷ আৰু চোৱা, কিছুমান চিনেমাতটো পৰকীয়া প্ৰেমকো বহু মহান কৰি উপস্থাপন কৰা হয় ৷ সেয়া দেখিও আমি আবেগিক হৈ পৰোঁ ৷ নহয় জানোঁ? "

"ঠিকেই কৈছা ৷"

"কিন্তু বাস্তৱত সেয়া কিমানদূৰ গ্ৰহণযোগ্য ? আমাৰ ক্ষেত্ৰতে চোৱা, দিনটোৰ ভিতৰত মই নিজে কিমান গৰাকী ছোৱালীক বা মহিলাক লগ পাওঁ বাৰু? বা তুমিওটো দৈনন্দিন বিভিন্ন ল'ৰা বা পুৰুষৰ  সান্নিধ্যত আহা ! তাৰে মাজৰ কাৰোবাৰ ব্যক্তিত্বৰ প্ৰতি খন্তেকৰ বাবে আকৰ্ষিত হোৱাটো একো অস্বাভাৱিক নহয় ৷ কিন্তু যদি সেই বিশেষজনৰ প্ৰেমত পৰি আমাৰ এজনে আনজনক অৱহেলা কৰিবলৈ আৰম্ভ কৰোঁ, তেন্তে আমি এজনে আনজনৰ লগতে আমাৰ সন্তানটিৰ প্ৰতি অন্যায় কৰা নহ'বনে?"

পৰীয়ে কৈ উঠিল,

"ঠিকেই কৈছা প্ৰিয়ম, কিছুমান কথা চিনেমাতহে ভাল লাগে ৷ বাস্তৱ সম্পূৰ্ণ বিপৰীত ৷ নিজৰ আবেগ অনুভূটিবোৰ সংযত কৰিব পাৰিলেহে সংসাৰ এখন টিকি থাকে ৷"

পৰী ইমান অনুভূতিপ্ৰবণ হৈ পৰিব বুলি আশা কৰা নাছিলোঁ ৷ গতিকে পৰিস্থিতিটো কিছু লঘু কৰিবলৈ মই তেওঁক ক'লোঁ,

"মই কথাৰ কথাটোহে ক'লোঁ ৷ হ'ল বুলিয়ে তুমি ইমান চিন্তাশীল হৈ উঠাৰ কোনো প্ৰয়োজন নাই ৷ আৰু বিশেষকৈ চিনেমা চাই থকাৰ সময়তটো আৰু নহয় ৷ তোমাৰ চকুপানীখিনি দেখোন শুকাই গ'ল ৷ এটা কাম কৰা, চিনেমাখন চলাই দিওঁ, তুমি এসোতামান কান্দা ৷ চকুপানী মচিবলৈ ময়ো ৰোমাণ্টিক হিৰ' টাইপত তোমাক শুধ বগা তাৱেল এখনেই আনি দিও বাথৰুমৰপৰা ৷ পকেটত ৰুমাল নাই যে! "

এটি উজ্জল হাঁহিৰে "দুষ্টটো ক'ৰবাৰ" বুলি কৈ পৰীয়ে মোৰ বাহুটোত লাহেকৈ ঠেলা মাৰি  দিলে ৷ অকস্মাতে পৰীৰ প্ৰতি মই সেই 'বিশেষভাৱে' আকৃষ্ট হৈ পৰিলোঁ ৷ অলপ আগতে দেখা নায়ক নায়িকাৰ আলিংগনৰ মুহুৰ্তখিনি মোৰ চকুৰ আগত ভাঁহি উঠিল ৷ ঘৰৰ বাকী সদস্যসকল ইতিমধ্যে শুলেই চাগৈ ৷ গতিকে অলপ দুষ্টামিয়েই কৰা যাওক বুলি মনতে পাং পাতি ৰুমৰ দৰ্জাখন বন্ধ কৰিবলৈ বুলি বিচনাৰ ওপৰত উঠি বহিলোঁ ৷

#এক_মিনিটৰ_গল্প, #এচিকুট_দুষ্টামি, #ডাঃ_কুমাৰ_পাৰ্থ_প্ৰতিম

Shorts, skirts etc...

These days so many discussions are going on regarding female dresses. Thus I thought of sharing my own views.... Another one thing, this update is somewhat different from my usual updates. There is every chance that you might get offended by my choice of words, so be careful while reading any further...

What is in a dress actually? How much does it matter? Okay, it matters... Almost everyone will agree that it matters... Depending upon the time, place and person, the dresses vary. A fancy dress is not welcome in religious activities. A too revealing dress is not expected in a family gathering. If you are going for a swim, a traditional Indian "SAREE" or an Assamese "CHADAR MEKHELA" won't be an ideal choice... A scantily clad lady or a man won't be tolerated in a funeral... Yeah, most of us will agree..

Some are seen arguing about the comfort of an individual. What is a comfortable dress actually? A comfortable dress for one might not be at all the dress of choice for another one. Everybody is quite comfortable in the dresses in which they go to bed, but how many of us will prefer to wear the same dress outside? Our kids might feel comfortable in their underwear at home, but when we go for outing, don't we make them wear something else on them? This is just an example.. We are living in a society... We can't change everyone's mentality. Everybody is having his or her own viewpoint. How many of us have met our 'would be' in laws for the first time in the dress of our choice? Most of us actually try to follow certain implied regulations. But if someone goes against those unwritten regulations, what is the point of discussing so much? If someone's  comfort level makes another one to feel discomfort, better to avoid the first one!!

When coming to the dresses, most of the times the main 'subject' or rather 'object' becomes the female dresses. Many are seen arguing that by the dresses our females are wearing these days, they are actually polluting our traditions. I don't agree to this view... Attend any marriage reception and you will be able to get my point. You will find most of the older girls and ladies wearing traditional dresses with jewellery, but most of the older boys and men would be seen wearing pant shirts or trouser or suits with a tie... Now tell me, are these male dresses in any way traditional? I think I won't have to discuss any further in this regard.

Same dress may seem to fit different in different individuals depending upon their complexion, shape, general build of the body and several other factors. In the same dress one may look cute, one may look pretty, one may look fabulous, one may look sexy, one may just fit or another one may look odd or vulgar. Depending upon the posture, positioning, expression and all, using a single dress the same individual might be able to send different messages... It's our own duty to choose the proper dress that suits our body. Most of us are able to judge the same, but if someone fails, then what's the point to humiliate him or her?

Some dresses are meant to be worn inside the house. What is the point of wearing a dress in public that is too short to show the butt line? In case of minors it's the duty of the parents or the guardians to properly guide them and in case of adults it's their own responsibility to restrain themselves from wearing such types of dresses to certain places. And if they don't care, why should we bother? I am not saying that we should remain indifferent to everything that are happening in our surroundings.. All I am trying to convey is that if such things are truly hampering the civilized social environment, then also whether in the form of comments or disrespect or anything, personally we are nobody to take any action, rather we can always initiate legal proceeding to such incidents!!!

My next question is... How much is enough? I mean how much of clothes are enough to cover one's modesty? In front of a peeping Tom, everyone is vulnerable.. I mean if somebody wants to peep through a dress, no dress will be adequate to protect one's modesty!!!

Another question is, how much exposure is indecent? I mean what amount of "flesh" should be exposed by a clothing to term it as an indecent dress? Can anybody say it for sure? For some, anything that covers "less than a two piece bikini" may be indecent, and for some, flashing of the ankle joints may even be termed as an inappropriate clothing... You know, it's not always possible to please everybody!!!

Some people argue that incidence of rape is directly related to the "provocative" dress of the victims. Then what about those little kids who gets raped? What about those specially abled or those mentally challenged teen girls who get pregnant? What about those older women who fall prey to those rapists? Are there any explanation? Or is it the reason that as they are females, they deserve to be raped? Please, stop all these nonsense reasoning !!!

Just because her bra strap is visible outside her dress or her bra can be seen easily through her dress doesn't mean that one can touch her inappropriately. What is a bra actually? Is it a sex toy? No... It is an innerwear needed by most of the older girls and ladies to support their breasts. So? What do those miscreants think? Are their eyes X-ray machines? Are they the only persons to notice all these? My answer is a big no... Everybody notices, but the main difference is that unlike them, others can consider a normal thing as normal!! Anatomically male and females are different... In females some organs are supposed to be noticed outside their dresses... So? Do our mothers ought to start the horrible practice of "Ironing of the breasts" of their daughters since their teenage years as practised in some parts of the world so that their physical development remain apparently invisible to those pervert's eyes and later making them ill?

We don't like when somebody tries to impose his or her opinion upon us... Shouldn't we try to stop doing the same to others?

Thus I would like to have some final words for those who ill treat a female just on the basis of her dresses...

So, you think you are free to pass any lewd comments to a girl or even molest her just because she wore a dress which you "thought" to be "provocative"!!! My dear friend, just tell me who are you? Are you a "moral police" who has been given the "responsibility" by the "authority" to maintain the "dignity" in our society? No... For me you are a bloody moron who doesn't have any other work to do!!!  You have plenty of time to discuss what others are doing because you don't have the capacity to take the responsibility of your family or anything else or rather it might be true that you are just trying to escape from all of your responsibilities!!! You are one of those  fucking perverts who try to release their sexual urges at the least possible chances!!! In spite of you having a head, your brain lies at the junction of your legs... In other words actually you are the person who is a potential threat to the society!!! You are one of those persons because of whom our females are not at all safe outside our homes!!! Rather you should be put behind bars to clean our society!!! Nothing more to say....

সেই অনুভৱটি.... নাজানোঁ আৰু দিয়ক !!!

চিকিৎসালয়ত ৰুটিন ৰাউণ্ড দি আছিলোঁ ৷ বয়সীয়া চিষ্টাৰ (নাৰ্চ) এগৰাকীয়ে মোৰ ওচৰলৈ আগুৱাই আহি আন্তৰিকতাৰে সুধিলে,

"ছাৰ, আপোনাৰ ছোৱালীয়ে আমাৰ মেডিকেলতে ফাৰ্ষ্ট এম,বি,বি,এছ ত পঢ়ি আছে নহয়নে?"

মই উত্তৰ দিলোঁ,

"নাই, নহয় বাইদেউ ৷"

তেখেতে মোক ইমান ডাঙৰ ছোৱালীৰ দেউতাক বুলি ভাবিলে, পিছে ব্যক্তিগতভাৱে মই মোৰ নিজ সন্তানৰ পিতৃ হোৱাৰ ক্ষেত্ৰত এতিয়াও "প্ৰছেছিং ফেজ" তে আছোঁ ৷

চিষ্টাৰ বাইদেউ গৰাকীয়ে যেন অলপ আমোদহে পালে ৷ মিচিকিয়া হাঁহি এটিৰে তেখেতে আকৌ ক'লে,

"মোক বুৰ্বক নবনাব ছাৰ ৷ কালি মোক মোৰ লগৰ এগৰাকীয়ে তাইৰ লগত চিনাকিও কৰি দিছে ৷"

মই অলপ খৰ খেদাত আছিলোঁ ৷ তাৰোপৰি তেখেতৰ মনত দকৈ শিপাই যোৱা এই 'নিৰ্দোষ' ভুল কথাটো মই ইমান কম সময়তে যে নোহোৱা কৰিব নোৱাৰিম, সেই সম্পৰ্কে মই নিশ্চিন্ত আছিলোঁ ৷ গতিকে কথা বহলাই থকাতকৈ মই হাঁহি এটিৰে থোৰতে উত্তৰ দি থলোঁ,

"অ'কে, তাৰমানে আপুনি তাইক লগ পালেই ইতিমধ্যে !"

"হয় ছাৰ ৷ আপোনাৰ ছোৱালীজনী বৰ ধুনীয়া ৷ আৰু কথা বতৰাতো বহুত ভদ্ৰ ৷"

"ধন্যবাদ বাইদেউ !"

মই লাহেকৈ আতৰি আহিলোঁ ৷ কিন্তু আহি থকাৰ সময়ত মোৰ মনত বিভিন্ন ধৰণৰ মিশ্ৰিত ভাৱনাই দোলা দিব ধৰিলে ৷ বোধহয় মই বয়সতকৈ বুঢ়া হৈ গৈছোঁ ৷ বোধহয় মোৰ লাহে লাহে বাঢ়ি প্ৰকাণ্ড হৈ অহা পেটটো কমাবলৈ চেষ্টা কৰাৰ সময় আহি গৈছে ৷ ইত্যাদি ইত্যাদি ৷

কিন্তু যিয়েই নহওক, ৩৪ বছৰ বয়সত এজনী ১৯ বছৰীয়া ছোৱালীৰ দেউতাক হোৱাৰ অনুভৱটি...... নাজানোঁ আৰু দিয়ক !!! :-) :-)

The feeling is like... I don't know!!!

That day I was on my routine rounds at my hospital when one of our elderly sisters (nurse) told me,

"Sir, is your daughter studying 1st MBBS here at GMCH?"

I said, "No."

Anyway,  I am still at the "Processing Phase" to have my own kid!!!

She got amused. She smiled and said,

"Don't try to make fool of me sir, one of my colleague already introduced her to me yesterday!!!"

I was in a hurry. Moreover I didn't think that I would have been capable of removing her "innocent" misinformation that soon!!!  Thus I smiled and said,

"Okay,  you have met her already!!!"

"Yes sir, your daughter is beautiful...  and well behaved too!! "

My smile broadened even more...  I just said,

"Thank you!!"

While I was leaving, my mind was full of mixed thoughts...  May be gradually I am looking older than my chronological age... May be it's high time to put my effort to reduce my gradually increasing tummy... etc etc....

But whatever it may be, at 34, being the father of a 19 years old, the feeling is like.... I don't  know!!!  :-) :-)

Yakub's hanging and my viewpoints

Ok, Yakub Memon was hanged till death. He was found guilty of 1993 serial Mumbai blasts by our Hon'ble courts of law. He (of course along with some others) was responsible for untimely deaths of so many Innocent individuals. Thus on the basis of evidences and all, our courts decided that he deserved highest punishment that the law of this land permitted. Shouldn't we pay respect towards our system of judiciary? At least the the survivors and the kith and kins of the victims are happy!!! After 22 years they have found something which is actually a "news" to them. Justice delayed, but not denied...

Is the value of the lives of those innocent men, women and kids lower than the life of the terrorist who was responsible for their deaths? Play politics and we would be able to see so many dangerous individuals roaming free.. I suppose I won't have to elaborate anything else, we have already so many living examples here in Assam!!!

Some people are trying to politicize the issue in the name of religion. Some are saying that Memon belongs to a particular religion and that's the reason he was hanged till death and blah blah!! I have one question to those persons, is there any religion in this world which advocates violence? Does any religion teaches of any method how to cold bloodedly murder a human being? Terrorism follows no religion. Terrorists don't belong to any religion.. For some, terrorism is actually their business that makes huge profit which is even beyond our imagination!!! Most of the terror acts are funded by outside elements to disrupt the integrity of our nation. While the matter of our national integrity and loss of innocent lives arise, shouldn't we stay united??

Some are saying that as the main convicts like Dawood Ibrahim and Tiger Memon are still at large, so by delivering punishment to Yakub Memon alone is meaningless!!!  Just tell me one thing or just clear my doubts, does committing a crime in a group decreases the individual responsibility of those criminals?

Delivering punishment and giving a chance to reform are two entirely different entities. When somebody commits a heinous crime, he/she should get the punishment first, then comes the point of getting the chances to reform. Given the chance, not every "RATNAKAR" becomes a "BALMIKI"!!! There are lots of examples when one gets involved in similar unsocial activities once he/she gets out of jail (specially true in case of adult convicts).

"If this is done this way, this might happen!!"

Justice can't be delivered keeping in view of the consequences or the after effects. Unhealthy criticism is received even after doing the best of the best things. "Majority must be granted" holds true in case of democracy, but justice can't be based on the public opinion. Moreover there is no place for emotions in case of judiciary. One murderer can't be allowed to roam free just because he has an ailing mother to be taken care of.. One rapist can't be set free just because he has kids at home. Punishment of a convict by the laws of the land shouldn't be stayed just because there might be chances of instigated riots.

There is always scopes for debate whether capital punishment should be totally abolished from our system. Eye for an eye can never be a solution to anything, but a terrorist should never be the "poster boy" for these discussions!!!

Teenage love affair and those wrongdoings !!!

The incident that I am going to mention today is around 2 years old. I was working as a Medical Officer at a blood bank. I was on duty and I was screening the blood donors. One man in his early 40's came to my chamber. He was wearing a full sleeved shirt, but during examination I noticed that he was having a prominent tattoo on his right forearm. From the appearance it could be easily presumed that it was old enough and thus the tattoo was not going to interfere with the blood donation process, I mean the donor was not to be deferred just because of the tattoo. But the interesting fact was that the tattoo was nothing but a girl's name written in blue ink in block capital letters. I was amused and asked him in a friendly way,

"Is that your wife's name?"

He felt uneasy.. Yet he somehow managed to smile and said,

"Don't ask me sir!!! She was my girlfriend long back when I was still a school student, and this is the reason that quite often my wife fights with me...  She is not at all happy to have another girl's name written on my forearm..."

To be true, I could relate to the feelings of his wife. I am not going to discuss whether she was doing the right thing by arguing for the same reason again and again, but no wife in this world would like to see another girl's name on her husband's body, that too in the form of a permanent tattoo!!!

I tactfully diverted the topic and finished his examination, but this incident compelled me to think about something very important...

In the developed countries, the parents and teachers are wise enough to provide the teenagers the required information to safeguard themselves. Here we are shy enough even to mention the words "sex education" in front of our kids!!

To all the teenagers reading my post, remember one thing, love is not a crime... It's very natural to feel attracted to somebody or even to fall in love with someone. But beware, never ever try to do something which may have long-term impact on your life. We have seen so many lovebirds falling apart. We have seen so many lives being ruined. Try to avoid physical relations as much as possible.. If someone is interested in you just for your body or 'figure', there is every chance that he or she might feel bored of the same thing after some days or months and you will feel like wasted or used up or left alone. There is every possibility to commit mistakes... Specially for the girls, trust me, teenage pregnancy would never be a good experience to remember!!!  You might contact some of the sexually transmitted diseases. You might lose precious study years... Even if you can't resist yourself or your partner, there are always those protective or barrier methods to adopt. And for the boys, just because that girl looks matured enough, just because she was a consenting partner in all those activities need not necessarily provide you immunity, in fact you might find yourself behind bars for your advances with a minor. Another one thing, as a teenager you might consider your infatuation towards someone to be your 'true love' and later you might repent!!

There are so many more things to discuss regarding the same, but it won't be possible to cover all those in a single update.

I am not trying to discourage anybody, all I am trying to say is that everything has a right age to start...

You know, love is blind... Adolescence itself can be a confusing time... But whatever happens, remember one thing... Prevention is better than cure and by now you probably know to some extent where, how and what you should prevent!!!

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Regards,
Dr. Kumar Partha Pratim.
www.partha.pratimz.in

Ordinary instances which keep our life going!!

July 2, 2015:

10-30AM:

One cute boy of 11 years came to me with his father to get some documents signed. I signed the first page and just before putting the date I asked him,

"Today is 2nd of July, right?"

He replied, "Right.."

I again asked, "Is it really 2nd July?"

He smiled and said, "Yes, it's 2nd of July."

"Are you sure ?"

"Sure."

"Confirm?"

"Confirm."

His smile increased even more.. He could realize my intention. I had a pleasant feeling.. Even his father smiled...

I smiled, then frowned and then said, "Should I really write it as 2nd of July?"

He laughed and said, "Yes sir, please write..."

And we all laughed...

You know, this is a very simple instance in my routine life, nothing special even to mention it. But these are those kind of instances which keep our life going!!

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Regards,
Dr. Kumar Partha Pratim.
www.partha.pratimz.in

And that feeling is just priceless!!

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SNAPSHOT 1:

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You are a young unmarried boy. You were driving your car in heavy traffic. At one spot you were forced to wait for around 5 minutes. Deep inside you were feeling too exhausted! All of a sudden you noticed one very pretty girl on the right side at the footpath who was waiting to cross the road. Probably she had mistaken you to be someone else and thus presents you a beautiful smile. Your heart stops for a moment, you smile back and at the very moment the car behind you blows it's horn loudly. The traffic was clear!!  You had no other way out, but to move ahead. You silently smile at yourself, you might never meet that girl again. But you realise it for sure... That precious smile of that girl has already made a few moments of your life beautiful.. And that feeling is just priceless!!!

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SNAPSHOT 2:

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You are a student. You were preparing for this exam for last one year and the result was declared today. You had forgotten everything, but this exam. All your family members were eagerly waiting to hear a positive result. You tried to contact them over phone, but there were some network problems and you couldn't convey anything. You reach home. Your anxious parents hesitate to ask anything, just keep staring at you. You touch their feet and tell them,

"The result is good!!"

There is no hues and cries.. There is no expression to celebrate.. There is not even a single word of appreciation from their end.. But you notice tear droplets in their eyes... Those are tears of happiness..  And the feeling is just priceless!!!

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SNAPSHOT 3:

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You are a doctor by profession. During your MBBS life and even afterwards you have examined and managed pregnant ladies for countless times. Now your wife is pregnant for the first time. You know it well that only  after a certain period of pregnancy you would be able to hear the foetal heart rate, I mean the heart beat of your unborn baby. Yet every night before going to sleep you use to take out your stethoscope, ask your wife to lie on bed, put the bell on her abdomen with a hope to hear your baby. You fail every time, but you never give up your hope. Last night you casually tried once again, but yes, there is life!!!

"Lub Dub....  Lub Dub.... Lub Dub.... Lub Dub.... "

You feel thrilled... You feel amazed.. You feel at the top of the world...  I mean you don't get any word to properly express your feelings!!  You hand over the earpiece to your wife...

"Can you hear?"

Her smile brightens... from her expression it appears like she was virtually interacting with the baby!! You know... You have just heard from your first yet to born baby!!!  And that feeling is just priceless!!

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SNAPSHOT 4:

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You are a lady. You are pregnant for the first time. You have witnessed so many ups and downs in your married life. There were certain situations when you wondered whether you had taken your worst decision to marry this guy. Sometimes you even planned to take some extreme steps. You know that you both love each other, but sometimes you get confused.

Now you are lying on a bed at the cabin of a hospital. Your labor pain has started. It's the pain which only a mother can tolerate. You might be shifted to the labor room at any moment. You look at your husband. He was the only attendant available at that moment. His eyes were closed. Silently he was praying to God. He comes near you, holds your hand and kisses your forehead.

"Don't worry..... Everything will be alright..I am here for you!! "

He says to you. You could feel, although you are the person who had to bear all those pain, literally he was also going through the same situation. It's because he cares for you. You now realize... Yes, he really loves you....  And that feeling is just priceless!!!!!

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SNAPSHOT 5:

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You had to travel with your little sister. The distance was too long. The road was a total mess. The tremors and the jerking felt at the night super bus was really heavy. After an hour or such, the road was clear. Most of the passengers were trying to have a nap. You were listening to some music using a pair of headphones and your sister was looking outside through the window enjoying the faintly visible scenario. After some moment you feel something on your shoulder. Your sister was actually trying to fall asleep using your shoulder as a support. You encircle her neck with your arm and rest your palm over her opposite shoulder. After sometime she really goes to sleep. You were the reason for her comfort... You were the reason of her confidence.. You feel extremely happy inside. This is a feeling which only an elder brother or sister can relate to... And that feeling is just priceless!!!

Yes, she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 1:

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That day I was on my routine hospital  round when I had witnessed a beautiful scene. One lady was sitting on a hospital bed. Two kids of around 5 and 3 years of age were with her. Her left hand was lovingly encircling the elder kid's back while the right hand was busy feeding the younger one. And you know, she had a cannula fitted to her right hand. She didn't appear to be doing well and indeed she was the patient, yet she was taking care of her kids. No complaints!!  No regret!!  Only good will power with a visible caring smile!!!  Yes, she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 2:

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September 8, 2014, 06.00 AM:

My younger sister Pinkipratim was about to undergo caesarean section. It was her 2nd pregnancy. All of us were busy in making arrangements to take her to operation theatre from the cabin. All of a sudden I noticed that she removed her spectacle and was in process of putting on her contact lenses. She is a high myopic actually. She smiled at me and said,

"You know Baba, they won't allow me to wear my spectacle during the operation. That's why I am wearing my contact  lenses. Anyway, nobody is going to apply pressure on my eyes I suppose!!"

I felt somewhat annoyed.. We were concerned about her operation and she was busy with her contact lenses!!!

"Is it so necessary Tutu?"

She replied, "Actually Baba, last time just after 'Darshan' was born, as usual the on duty sister showed him to me, but I couldn't see him properly. But this time I want to see my baby clearly at the first time itself!!"

I felt pleasant inside and realised.. Yes,  she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 3:

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That day I was at my chamber when one middle aged lady came to me with a black eye. It appeared like somebody punched her in her eye and I was right. Her 17 years old son had beaten her.

"Last night we had an argument. He demanded a bike for his use which I flatly denied. He became too angry and did this."

She started to weep. Even I was shocked to hear this. After a pause of some moments she regained herself and continued,

"He can never control his anger, use to through and break things. Yesterday it was for the first time that he has raised his hand on me. He has his whole life ahead. I am too worried about his future. I am ready to suffer even more, but the Almighty must show him the right path. Probably I am at fault. May be my brought up is wrong!!"

I advised the mother to have her son a psychosocial consultation. But deep inside I felt it for sure that even after being beaten only a mother can feel so sorry for her son. Yes, she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 4:

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Few months back there was a road traffic accident when around 20 Nos of injured persons were brought to our hospital. Thankfully no life threatening injury was there. One lady of around 45 years and a young girl of around 14 years of age were also amongst those injured. That girl was that lady's daughter. The lady was having more serious injuries than the young girl, but she was constantly asking about her daughter's well being. Rather than becoming concerned about her own condition, she was being concerned about her daughter. Yes, she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 5:

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April 18, 2015:

We had our MBBS batch get together that day. Our batch mate Sherina was given so many responsibilities for smooth running of the programme. She was accompanied by her 6 years old son. She was busy in some activities and he felt the urge to use the bathroom. She was wondering how to manage the situation. She was not in a position to leave the stage at that moment and at the same time she had to manage her kid. Thus I volunteered,

"Come with me Baba."

The kid  followed me without any question.

After about an hour Sherina came to me and said, "Thank you Partha!!"

Though I got confused, I said, "You are welcome!! " Anyway it has become our habit to utter those three words even before someone completes saying "Thank you". Later I realized... Oh!!  I had taken her son to the loo!!!

Do the slightest favour towards her children, which you yourself even forget to remember and a mother will become graciously grateful to you. Yes, she is a mother!!

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Last year my mother underwent cholecystectomy, I mean operation for gall bladder stones. She had to be admitted at the hospital somewhat early to bring her blood sugar level under control. On her first day at the hospital, after finishing my duties I went there to stay with her. Before she went to her bed, she asked me,

"When is your duty tomorrow Baba?"

"From 8 am Maa.."

She asked me again,

"So when should I wake you up in the morning?"

I smiled and Said,

"At 7.00 AM Maa."

On that day, she was a patient, she had been admitted for her operation. I was her attendant, I was supposed to take care of her. But even on that day my 'duty' was her primary concern. Yes, she is a mother. She is my mother!!!

Happy mother's day to all those mothers!!

Glimpses of married life: Spend reasonably!!

That day I was returning from my duties when I remembered about the slip my wife gave me in the morning. Actually I had to buy some of the household groceries which my wife had noted down in a piece of paper as a list fearing that I might forget. I tried at 3-4 shops and gathered everything. Trying to be a good husband, I even bought something which were not mentioned in the list!!! :-)

At bedtime, my wife asked me how much I spent for the groceries that day, but I couldn't recollect. I had bought from different shops, but I didn't collect any receipt. I took out my purse, there were around 200/- rupees left, but I didn't  remember how much money I had in my purse beforehand. All these time my wife was reclining on the bed watching television, but I knew it for sure that she was actually silently monitoring my activities. I acted as if I had counted something and replied,

"Pranamee, I spent 1500/- rupees today!! "

She replied sternly,

"Don't bluff!!"

It somehow reminded me of my MBBS viva examinations. I tried to liquidate the situation by a cute (!!) smile and you know, it really worked.

She smiled (anyway, a married couple can't remain angry upon each other for long!!) and said,

"It's not at all a problem Partha, but you see, this is not for the first time that you have done this. But if you can maintain the daily expenditure list, we can actually plan for the month and accordingly we can plan for our savings and other activities!!"

I totally agreed. I don't know about others,  but when I was a bachelor, rather than planning for savings, I used to calculate how much money was yet left in my bank account so that I would be able to spend it in that particular month. I am not saying that I used to have several parties and all, but I had inclination for electronic gadgets and most of my money that I could have saved was spent on these not so necessary things. May be that I was careless, which I realize now to be my avoidable mistake. But the main problem is that sometimes even now I repeat these mistakes again and again. Before marriage my mother used to remind me all these, but probably I was not that much a responsible person. Anyway, I am trying to rectify myself!!

Few days after that incident, I was casually talking to 3 of my senior colleagues at my institute. One of my senior in the discussion was unmarried. He asked me,

"Answer me one query Partha. Does expenses really increase too much after marriage?"

I answered like a wise man (!!),

"It's true that expenses increase after marriage. When one person count increases in the family, there is supposedly increase in the expenditure. Moreover during the festivals your expenses will increase to carry on the formalities. The number of your family members will actually increase by around 2 fold for whom you will become concerned. After you have your own or adopted kids, there will be again increase in your expenses. There are lot many more to mention, but you know Dada, these are inevitable changes after marriage which you will actually enjoy. But as you are unmarried till now, in response to your question, all I have to say is that marriage does increase your expenditure, but at the same time marriage teaches you to spend reasonably, marriage teaches you to spend responsibly... That's all!!!"

The baby... Humanity prevails actually !!!

Ok, first of all let me clarify myself. Previously I had given a number of updates regarding paucity of humanity in present scenario.. On the contrary, today I am going to describe something different, something soothing to the heart..

That day there was an accident which happened around 100 kms away from my hospital. Several persons were injured including women and children. Some were treated at a local hospital, some were referred to Guwahati. Being a tertiary care hospital, around 30 patients were brought to our institute. Among those patients, there was one baby who was only 2 yrs old. The baby was accompanied by two young boys of around 23 and 25 years. Our doctors and hospital staffs were quite busy handling the emergency situation. The preliminary stage of the patients' immediate management was over and after that the stage of investigation started. One junior brought to my notice that the baby is actually unknown.

"Unknown? What do you mean? There are two attendants with the baby!!!"

"Yes Partha da, there are 2 boys with the baby, but they don't know who the baby is!!"

I was really surprised. I met those boys. Yeah, my junior was right....

"We were there at the accident spot sir. When the patients were being shifted, we came to know that the baby didn't have any conscious guardian.. And don't know why, but our inner self didn't allow us to leave the Injured baby and we reached here....."

The baby just met an accident and at that moment his clothes were having blood stains here and there, I mean his appearance was not that of a cute baby that most of us would like to lift and kiss his cheeks, but he was taken care of by two young boys who didn't know anything about him. Being human, we would have definitely cared about the baby, but the bitter truth is that most of us would avoid lifting such an unknown baby... Don't take me wrong, but I have personally met people who denied to carry an injured person citing the reason that it might make their vehicle dirty or blah blah, leave aside the thought of spending their precious time and money!! But the boys were least concerned about anything else and only cared about the well being of the child.

After an hour or such, the investigation reports were available and the baby was found to be out of danger, indeed he could be discharged, but due to unavailability of any known attendant, it was decided to keep the baby in the hospital.

At around 8.45 pm and after delivering their relentless service to the baby for around 3 hrs, the boys approached me..

"Sir, the baby is stable now and we will have to leave. What to do?"

I called the accompanying police officer and he immediately managed one lady constable to take care of the baby. However the boys didn't leave the hospital immediately, but waited till the baby was shifted from the emergency department to the respective ward.

You know, I truly wanted to thank the boys, but restrained myself from doing so thinking that it would probably underestimate their good will. But I wanted to encourage them to continue their good work. Thus, I didn't thank them, but let them know that amidst all those chaos, I just encountered a beautiful experience and I realised it for sure.. Yes, that's called humanity!!!

First and last of its kind.. At least I can hope so !!! :-)

That day one of my junior colleague called me. Actually one of his friend was about to come to my clinic that day regarding some ailments of his wife. I know them for years.

"Sir, there is a bad news.. Simanta (name changed) called me. He was about to meet you today.. But he got the news that his mother passed away !!"

"Oh !! Where is he now?"

"He is on the way to his hometown... With his wife and kids."

"Is he driving himself?"

"yes sir."

"Okay... I won't call him today. I'll talk to him later."

You know... I have witnessed so many deaths till date and even declared the same for so many times during my professional life, but yet I find it much difficult to console anybody who losses a near and dear one. That day I didn't call him thinking he might be busy with the rituals, moreover he is the eldest son in the family. Next day I just forgot. After 2 days I rang him up..

"Simanta, got the tragic news day before yesterday. I am so sorry. I can well assume what you are going through.. I pray to the almighty.. May her soul.."

I was about to conclude, but he hurriedly interrupted me..

"Sir.. Sir, listen !!"

"Yes Simanta.."

"Actually my mother is still alive.."

"Excuse me.. I mean.. Sorry, I am not getting your point.."

"Actually sir, that day for a while the whole family thought that she was no more.. Accordingly I asked Raktim (name changed) to inform you. But after she was brought to the hospital, the doctors informed us that she was unconscious.. She was admitted and after getting treatment for 3 days, she was discharged today. We reached home around 2 hours back. Now she is doing fine sir.. Please pray to god for her well being.."

I was in the midst of a tricky situation... I didn't know what to say !!! Finally I managed to say something,

"Oh, that's great Simanta.. I am feeling good that she is fine now.. But you know, that was a shocking surprise for me.."

"I can guess it well sir... Now please pray to the almighty for her health instead of her soul !!! Would you like to talk to her?"

He laughed loudly.. And as he laughed, I couldn't control myself anymore.. I laughed my lungs out..

"Leave it Simanta, convey her my wishes to get well soon.. I'll talk to her later.."

I disconnected the call.. But for a few minutes it forced me to wonder about the happenings that occurred just moments back!!!

That was for the first time that I called someone to console somebody's death, who is actually alive !!! The circumstances were indeed pleasant, but totally unpredicted and made me face an awkward situation..

I silently smiled once again at myself and hoped that such kind of incident would never ever happen to me.. Or else I can say, at least I can hope so !!!  :-) :-)