These days so many discussions are going on regarding female dresses. Thus I thought of sharing my own views.... Another one thing, this update is somewhat different from my usual updates. There is every chance that you might get offended by my choice of words, so be careful while reading any further...
What is in a dress actually? How much does it matter? Okay, it matters... Almost everyone will agree that it matters... Depending upon the time, place and person, the dresses vary. A fancy dress is not welcome in religious activities. A too revealing dress is not expected in a family gathering. If you are going for a swim, a traditional Indian "SAREE" or an Assamese "CHADAR MEKHELA" won't be an ideal choice... A scantily clad lady or a man won't be tolerated in a funeral... Yeah, most of us will agree..
Some are seen arguing about the comfort of an individual. What is a comfortable dress actually? A comfortable dress for one might not be at all the dress of choice for another one. Everybody is quite comfortable in the dresses in which they go to bed, but how many of us will prefer to wear the same dress outside? Our kids might feel comfortable in their underwear at home, but when we go for outing, don't we make them wear something else on them? This is just an example.. We are living in a society... We can't change everyone's mentality. Everybody is having his or her own viewpoint. How many of us have met our 'would be' in laws for the first time in the dress of our choice? Most of us actually try to follow certain implied regulations. But if someone goes against those unwritten regulations, what is the point of discussing so much? If someone's comfort level makes another one to feel discomfort, better to avoid the first one!!
When coming to the dresses, most of the times the main 'subject' or rather 'object' becomes the female dresses. Many are seen arguing that by the dresses our females are wearing these days, they are actually polluting our traditions. I don't agree to this view... Attend any marriage reception and you will be able to get my point. You will find most of the older girls and ladies wearing traditional dresses with jewellery, but most of the older boys and men would be seen wearing pant shirts or trouser or suits with a tie... Now tell me, are these male dresses in any way traditional? I think I won't have to discuss any further in this regard.
Same dress may seem to fit different in different individuals depending upon their complexion, shape, general build of the body and several other factors. In the same dress one may look cute, one may look pretty, one may look fabulous, one may look sexy, one may just fit or another one may look odd or vulgar. Depending upon the posture, positioning, expression and all, using a single dress the same individual might be able to send different messages... It's our own duty to choose the proper dress that suits our body. Most of us are able to judge the same, but if someone fails, then what's the point to humiliate him or her?
Some dresses are meant to be worn inside the house. What is the point of wearing a dress in public that is too short to show the butt line? In case of minors it's the duty of the parents or the guardians to properly guide them and in case of adults it's their own responsibility to restrain themselves from wearing such types of dresses to certain places. And if they don't care, why should we bother? I am not saying that we should remain indifferent to everything that are happening in our surroundings.. All I am trying to convey is that if such things are truly hampering the civilized social environment, then also whether in the form of comments or disrespect or anything, personally we are nobody to take any action, rather we can always initiate legal proceeding to such incidents!!!
My next question is... How much is enough? I mean how much of clothes are enough to cover one's modesty? In front of a peeping Tom, everyone is vulnerable.. I mean if somebody wants to peep through a dress, no dress will be adequate to protect one's modesty!!!
Another question is, how much exposure is indecent? I mean what amount of "flesh" should be exposed by a clothing to term it as an indecent dress? Can anybody say it for sure? For some, anything that covers "less than a two piece bikini" may be indecent, and for some, flashing of the ankle joints may even be termed as an inappropriate clothing... You know, it's not always possible to please everybody!!!
Some people argue that incidence of rape is directly related to the "provocative" dress of the victims. Then what about those little kids who gets raped? What about those specially abled or those mentally challenged teen girls who get pregnant? What about those older women who fall prey to those rapists? Are there any explanation? Or is it the reason that as they are females, they deserve to be raped? Please, stop all these nonsense reasoning !!!
Just because her bra strap is visible outside her dress or her bra can be seen easily through her dress doesn't mean that one can touch her inappropriately. What is a bra actually? Is it a sex toy? No... It is an innerwear needed by most of the older girls and ladies to support their breasts. So? What do those miscreants think? Are their eyes X-ray machines? Are they the only persons to notice all these? My answer is a big no... Everybody notices, but the main difference is that unlike them, others can consider a normal thing as normal!! Anatomically male and females are different... In females some organs are supposed to be noticed outside their dresses... So? Do our mothers ought to start the horrible practice of "Ironing of the breasts" of their daughters since their teenage years as practised in some parts of the world so that their physical development remain apparently invisible to those pervert's eyes and later making them ill?
We don't like when somebody tries to impose his or her opinion upon us... Shouldn't we try to stop doing the same to others?
Thus I would like to have some final words for those who ill treat a female just on the basis of her dresses...
So, you think you are free to pass any lewd comments to a girl or even molest her just because she wore a dress which you "thought" to be "provocative"!!! My dear friend, just tell me who are you? Are you a "moral police" who has been given the "responsibility" by the "authority" to maintain the "dignity" in our society? No... For me you are a bloody moron who doesn't have any other work to do!!! You have plenty of time to discuss what others are doing because you don't have the capacity to take the responsibility of your family or anything else or rather it might be true that you are just trying to escape from all of your responsibilities!!! You are one of those fucking perverts who try to release their sexual urges at the least possible chances!!! In spite of you having a head, your brain lies at the junction of your legs... In other words actually you are the person who is a potential threat to the society!!! You are one of those persons because of whom our females are not at all safe outside our homes!!! Rather you should be put behind bars to clean our society!!! Nothing more to say....
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