Yakub's hanging and my viewpoints

Ok, Yakub Memon was hanged till death. He was found guilty of 1993 serial Mumbai blasts by our Hon'ble courts of law. He (of course along with some others) was responsible for untimely deaths of so many Innocent individuals. Thus on the basis of evidences and all, our courts decided that he deserved highest punishment that the law of this land permitted. Shouldn't we pay respect towards our system of judiciary? At least the the survivors and the kith and kins of the victims are happy!!! After 22 years they have found something which is actually a "news" to them. Justice delayed, but not denied...

Is the value of the lives of those innocent men, women and kids lower than the life of the terrorist who was responsible for their deaths? Play politics and we would be able to see so many dangerous individuals roaming free.. I suppose I won't have to elaborate anything else, we have already so many living examples here in Assam!!!

Some people are trying to politicize the issue in the name of religion. Some are saying that Memon belongs to a particular religion and that's the reason he was hanged till death and blah blah!! I have one question to those persons, is there any religion in this world which advocates violence? Does any religion teaches of any method how to cold bloodedly murder a human being? Terrorism follows no religion. Terrorists don't belong to any religion.. For some, terrorism is actually their business that makes huge profit which is even beyond our imagination!!! Most of the terror acts are funded by outside elements to disrupt the integrity of our nation. While the matter of our national integrity and loss of innocent lives arise, shouldn't we stay united??

Some are saying that as the main convicts like Dawood Ibrahim and Tiger Memon are still at large, so by delivering punishment to Yakub Memon alone is meaningless!!!  Just tell me one thing or just clear my doubts, does committing a crime in a group decreases the individual responsibility of those criminals?

Delivering punishment and giving a chance to reform are two entirely different entities. When somebody commits a heinous crime, he/she should get the punishment first, then comes the point of getting the chances to reform. Given the chance, not every "RATNAKAR" becomes a "BALMIKI"!!! There are lots of examples when one gets involved in similar unsocial activities once he/she gets out of jail (specially true in case of adult convicts).

"If this is done this way, this might happen!!"

Justice can't be delivered keeping in view of the consequences or the after effects. Unhealthy criticism is received even after doing the best of the best things. "Majority must be granted" holds true in case of democracy, but justice can't be based on the public opinion. Moreover there is no place for emotions in case of judiciary. One murderer can't be allowed to roam free just because he has an ailing mother to be taken care of.. One rapist can't be set free just because he has kids at home. Punishment of a convict by the laws of the land shouldn't be stayed just because there might be chances of instigated riots.

There is always scopes for debate whether capital punishment should be totally abolished from our system. Eye for an eye can never be a solution to anything, but a terrorist should never be the "poster boy" for these discussions!!!

Teenage love affair and those wrongdoings !!!

The incident that I am going to mention today is around 2 years old. I was working as a Medical Officer at a blood bank. I was on duty and I was screening the blood donors. One man in his early 40's came to my chamber. He was wearing a full sleeved shirt, but during examination I noticed that he was having a prominent tattoo on his right forearm. From the appearance it could be easily presumed that it was old enough and thus the tattoo was not going to interfere with the blood donation process, I mean the donor was not to be deferred just because of the tattoo. But the interesting fact was that the tattoo was nothing but a girl's name written in blue ink in block capital letters. I was amused and asked him in a friendly way,

"Is that your wife's name?"

He felt uneasy.. Yet he somehow managed to smile and said,

"Don't ask me sir!!! She was my girlfriend long back when I was still a school student, and this is the reason that quite often my wife fights with me...  She is not at all happy to have another girl's name written on my forearm..."

To be true, I could relate to the feelings of his wife. I am not going to discuss whether she was doing the right thing by arguing for the same reason again and again, but no wife in this world would like to see another girl's name on her husband's body, that too in the form of a permanent tattoo!!!

I tactfully diverted the topic and finished his examination, but this incident compelled me to think about something very important...

In the developed countries, the parents and teachers are wise enough to provide the teenagers the required information to safeguard themselves. Here we are shy enough even to mention the words "sex education" in front of our kids!!

To all the teenagers reading my post, remember one thing, love is not a crime... It's very natural to feel attracted to somebody or even to fall in love with someone. But beware, never ever try to do something which may have long-term impact on your life. We have seen so many lovebirds falling apart. We have seen so many lives being ruined. Try to avoid physical relations as much as possible.. If someone is interested in you just for your body or 'figure', there is every chance that he or she might feel bored of the same thing after some days or months and you will feel like wasted or used up or left alone. There is every possibility to commit mistakes... Specially for the girls, trust me, teenage pregnancy would never be a good experience to remember!!!  You might contact some of the sexually transmitted diseases. You might lose precious study years... Even if you can't resist yourself or your partner, there are always those protective or barrier methods to adopt. And for the boys, just because that girl looks matured enough, just because she was a consenting partner in all those activities need not necessarily provide you immunity, in fact you might find yourself behind bars for your advances with a minor. Another one thing, as a teenager you might consider your infatuation towards someone to be your 'true love' and later you might repent!!

There are so many more things to discuss regarding the same, but it won't be possible to cover all those in a single update.

I am not trying to discourage anybody, all I am trying to say is that everything has a right age to start...

You know, love is blind... Adolescence itself can be a confusing time... But whatever happens, remember one thing... Prevention is better than cure and by now you probably know to some extent where, how and what you should prevent!!!

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Regards,
Dr. Kumar Partha Pratim.
www.partha.pratimz.in

Ordinary instances which keep our life going!!

July 2, 2015:

10-30AM:

One cute boy of 11 years came to me with his father to get some documents signed. I signed the first page and just before putting the date I asked him,

"Today is 2nd of July, right?"

He replied, "Right.."

I again asked, "Is it really 2nd July?"

He smiled and said, "Yes, it's 2nd of July."

"Are you sure ?"

"Sure."

"Confirm?"

"Confirm."

His smile increased even more.. He could realize my intention. I had a pleasant feeling.. Even his father smiled...

I smiled, then frowned and then said, "Should I really write it as 2nd of July?"

He laughed and said, "Yes sir, please write..."

And we all laughed...

You know, this is a very simple instance in my routine life, nothing special even to mention it. But these are those kind of instances which keep our life going!!

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Regards,
Dr. Kumar Partha Pratim.
www.partha.pratimz.in

And that feeling is just priceless!!

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SNAPSHOT 1:

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You are a young unmarried boy. You were driving your car in heavy traffic. At one spot you were forced to wait for around 5 minutes. Deep inside you were feeling too exhausted! All of a sudden you noticed one very pretty girl on the right side at the footpath who was waiting to cross the road. Probably she had mistaken you to be someone else and thus presents you a beautiful smile. Your heart stops for a moment, you smile back and at the very moment the car behind you blows it's horn loudly. The traffic was clear!!  You had no other way out, but to move ahead. You silently smile at yourself, you might never meet that girl again. But you realise it for sure... That precious smile of that girl has already made a few moments of your life beautiful.. And that feeling is just priceless!!!

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SNAPSHOT 2:

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You are a student. You were preparing for this exam for last one year and the result was declared today. You had forgotten everything, but this exam. All your family members were eagerly waiting to hear a positive result. You tried to contact them over phone, but there were some network problems and you couldn't convey anything. You reach home. Your anxious parents hesitate to ask anything, just keep staring at you. You touch their feet and tell them,

"The result is good!!"

There is no hues and cries.. There is no expression to celebrate.. There is not even a single word of appreciation from their end.. But you notice tear droplets in their eyes... Those are tears of happiness..  And the feeling is just priceless!!!

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SNAPSHOT 3:

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You are a doctor by profession. During your MBBS life and even afterwards you have examined and managed pregnant ladies for countless times. Now your wife is pregnant for the first time. You know it well that only  after a certain period of pregnancy you would be able to hear the foetal heart rate, I mean the heart beat of your unborn baby. Yet every night before going to sleep you use to take out your stethoscope, ask your wife to lie on bed, put the bell on her abdomen with a hope to hear your baby. You fail every time, but you never give up your hope. Last night you casually tried once again, but yes, there is life!!!

"Lub Dub....  Lub Dub.... Lub Dub.... Lub Dub.... "

You feel thrilled... You feel amazed.. You feel at the top of the world...  I mean you don't get any word to properly express your feelings!!  You hand over the earpiece to your wife...

"Can you hear?"

Her smile brightens... from her expression it appears like she was virtually interacting with the baby!! You know... You have just heard from your first yet to born baby!!!  And that feeling is just priceless!!

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SNAPSHOT 4:

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You are a lady. You are pregnant for the first time. You have witnessed so many ups and downs in your married life. There were certain situations when you wondered whether you had taken your worst decision to marry this guy. Sometimes you even planned to take some extreme steps. You know that you both love each other, but sometimes you get confused.

Now you are lying on a bed at the cabin of a hospital. Your labor pain has started. It's the pain which only a mother can tolerate. You might be shifted to the labor room at any moment. You look at your husband. He was the only attendant available at that moment. His eyes were closed. Silently he was praying to God. He comes near you, holds your hand and kisses your forehead.

"Don't worry..... Everything will be alright..I am here for you!! "

He says to you. You could feel, although you are the person who had to bear all those pain, literally he was also going through the same situation. It's because he cares for you. You now realize... Yes, he really loves you....  And that feeling is just priceless!!!!!

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SNAPSHOT 5:

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You had to travel with your little sister. The distance was too long. The road was a total mess. The tremors and the jerking felt at the night super bus was really heavy. After an hour or such, the road was clear. Most of the passengers were trying to have a nap. You were listening to some music using a pair of headphones and your sister was looking outside through the window enjoying the faintly visible scenario. After some moment you feel something on your shoulder. Your sister was actually trying to fall asleep using your shoulder as a support. You encircle her neck with your arm and rest your palm over her opposite shoulder. After sometime she really goes to sleep. You were the reason for her comfort... You were the reason of her confidence.. You feel extremely happy inside. This is a feeling which only an elder brother or sister can relate to... And that feeling is just priceless!!!

Yes, she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 1:

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That day I was on my routine hospital  round when I had witnessed a beautiful scene. One lady was sitting on a hospital bed. Two kids of around 5 and 3 years of age were with her. Her left hand was lovingly encircling the elder kid's back while the right hand was busy feeding the younger one. And you know, she had a cannula fitted to her right hand. She didn't appear to be doing well and indeed she was the patient, yet she was taking care of her kids. No complaints!!  No regret!!  Only good will power with a visible caring smile!!!  Yes, she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 2:

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September 8, 2014, 06.00 AM:

My younger sister Pinkipratim was about to undergo caesarean section. It was her 2nd pregnancy. All of us were busy in making arrangements to take her to operation theatre from the cabin. All of a sudden I noticed that she removed her spectacle and was in process of putting on her contact lenses. She is a high myopic actually. She smiled at me and said,

"You know Baba, they won't allow me to wear my spectacle during the operation. That's why I am wearing my contact  lenses. Anyway, nobody is going to apply pressure on my eyes I suppose!!"

I felt somewhat annoyed.. We were concerned about her operation and she was busy with her contact lenses!!!

"Is it so necessary Tutu?"

She replied, "Actually Baba, last time just after 'Darshan' was born, as usual the on duty sister showed him to me, but I couldn't see him properly. But this time I want to see my baby clearly at the first time itself!!"

I felt pleasant inside and realised.. Yes,  she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 3:

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That day I was at my chamber when one middle aged lady came to me with a black eye. It appeared like somebody punched her in her eye and I was right. Her 17 years old son had beaten her.

"Last night we had an argument. He demanded a bike for his use which I flatly denied. He became too angry and did this."

She started to weep. Even I was shocked to hear this. After a pause of some moments she regained herself and continued,

"He can never control his anger, use to through and break things. Yesterday it was for the first time that he has raised his hand on me. He has his whole life ahead. I am too worried about his future. I am ready to suffer even more, but the Almighty must show him the right path. Probably I am at fault. May be my brought up is wrong!!"

I advised the mother to have her son a psychosocial consultation. But deep inside I felt it for sure that even after being beaten only a mother can feel so sorry for her son. Yes, she is a mother!!

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Few months back there was a road traffic accident when around 20 Nos of injured persons were brought to our hospital. Thankfully no life threatening injury was there. One lady of around 45 years and a young girl of around 14 years of age were also amongst those injured. That girl was that lady's daughter. The lady was having more serious injuries than the young girl, but she was constantly asking about her daughter's well being. Rather than becoming concerned about her own condition, she was being concerned about her daughter. Yes, she is a mother!!

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SNAPSHOT 5:

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April 18, 2015:

We had our MBBS batch get together that day. Our batch mate Sherina was given so many responsibilities for smooth running of the programme. She was accompanied by her 6 years old son. She was busy in some activities and he felt the urge to use the bathroom. She was wondering how to manage the situation. She was not in a position to leave the stage at that moment and at the same time she had to manage her kid. Thus I volunteered,

"Come with me Baba."

The kid  followed me without any question.

After about an hour Sherina came to me and said, "Thank you Partha!!"

Though I got confused, I said, "You are welcome!! " Anyway it has become our habit to utter those three words even before someone completes saying "Thank you". Later I realized... Oh!!  I had taken her son to the loo!!!

Do the slightest favour towards her children, which you yourself even forget to remember and a mother will become graciously grateful to you. Yes, she is a mother!!

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Last year my mother underwent cholecystectomy, I mean operation for gall bladder stones. She had to be admitted at the hospital somewhat early to bring her blood sugar level under control. On her first day at the hospital, after finishing my duties I went there to stay with her. Before she went to her bed, she asked me,

"When is your duty tomorrow Baba?"

"From 8 am Maa.."

She asked me again,

"So when should I wake you up in the morning?"

I smiled and Said,

"At 7.00 AM Maa."

On that day, she was a patient, she had been admitted for her operation. I was her attendant, I was supposed to take care of her. But even on that day my 'duty' was her primary concern. Yes, she is a mother. She is my mother!!!

Happy mother's day to all those mothers!!