Another form of humanity...

That day I was talking to somebody while having a cup of tea at the veranda of a hotel. Meanwhile the sound of some dogs, which they usually make when they see somebody familiar, drew my attention. There was one middle aged Sister (Nurse) madam with a packet of biscuits in her hand and all the three dogs were looking at her displaying their loyalty by moving their tails in the same rhythm... She opened the packet, which is a big one actually, and started distributing amongst them... And the dogs too started eating the biscuits silently without making any noise... Those who have slightest experience with dogs would readily agree that even when we distribute some foods amongst our pet dogs, there is usually huge noise... But in this case, this madam worked magically... Probably this is her routine activity and thus she has successfully trained these stray dogs to share while taking food... Maybe these dogs  also could well understand that this madam won't let anyone deprive of their part... Everybody will get the due share of the biscuits.... :-):-)

It was an amazing scene to witness... I don't know her, but I have seen her before in GMCH and after  seeing her action that day, I had the intense urge to meet this lady. But when I looked around in search for her, she was out of the scene... Probably after finishing her this duty of humanity she once again became busy with her job responsibilities... 

You know... In this competitive world at the time when we don't get proper time to think beyond our family, this Nurse madam has set a fine example of humanity... Probably it's because of these kinds of people that the world is running smoothly... Hats off to you madam... We have so many things to learn from people like you...

Sati Saavitri .... (সতী সà��বিত্রী ।।)

This Sunday I watched a programme "Ji kom Socha kom" [I'll tell only the truth] @Assamese Channel DY365 anchored by Dr. Akashitora... The guest for the episode was one lady with two little kids whose husband has married for the second time, that too at a time when she was perfectly alive and staying with her husband without a divorce ...

First of all let me clarify something... I've not written this post to judge anybody... Their case is under trial and the law will take its own due course... What I am trying is to highlight some important points...

You see... That lady was wearing Sindur (vermilion) even after she was mercilessly rejected by her husband... What would you say? I just feel pity for the husband !!!Okay, I don't know anything about the reasons for the creation of distance and tension between the two, but I know one thing for sure that if the husband really needs to marry for the second time, they will have to legally separate beforehand...

And what to say about the kids!!! Both kids were present there beside their mother on the sets of the show... And about the little one, you won't have any other option than to adore her... She is around 3yrs old, and when she did sing a few lines of a song, I felt something heavier inside.... I don't understand how a father can leave aside such two kids for another woman... I know... Love is blind, but specifically in this situation this reasoning just lacks any positive aspect... Yet this lady tried to share her husband with an another woman keeping in view of the future of the kids, but somehow she just failed... Personally I can never blame her at least for her inability to cope with her husband's second wife... Really, its not that much easy !!!

Now coming to the society, according to that lady, most of the people from her locality blames her because she couldn't live with her husband's second wife... As informed you earlier, I once again say that I won't even try to judge whether she is speaking the whole or part truth... But personally as a physician, I have witnessed quite a no. of such cases in which the society tries to justify the husband's act eventually making the life of the wife even more complicated..

This is the high time for a change... The concept of "Sati Saavitri" should have been over by now... Such kind of husbands should also learn to be loyal to their wives... But to be true, in a society where a rapist gets the "PUNISHMENT" by some of the "local self proclaimed law makers" to marry the victim, I really don't see much hope for a change...!!!

A nice example..!!!

Today I was waiting at a traffic point for signal. There I noticed two aged persons with grey hairs in their 80's near my car... The lady was holding the gentleman's shoulder... The way they were interacting, it became apparent that most probably they are cousins and they have met each other after a long interval... And by the way in which the gentleman behaved, it was not difficult for me to assume that the lady was his elder cousin... I don't know for how long they were talking, but just before there was green signal at the traffic point, the gentleman touched the feet of the lady...

I was just overwhelmed... It won't be possible for me to know their identity in any way...  Can you imagine? The old man needed one walking stick for his support, yet he didn't fail to pay his sister her due respect.. And what to say about that old lady ... She just unknowingly openly displayed her care by placing her palm over his shoulder...

I am not saying that these are the only ways to show that you care... I am not saying that touching someone's feet is the only way to show that you respect somebody...  There are lots many and when you really care, by this or that way, it somehow gets expressed in most of the times... I have given emphasis on "most of the times", because we can never deny that there are so many people who without even saying or expressing anything just do their part....

You know, I felt honoured to witness such an incident.. And I really believe that indeed it may actually become a very  nice example of brother sister relationship.... In this time when most of us, the young generation have mostly become mechanical in our relationships, these kinds of examples certainly rejuvenate us and we can once again start believing that... Yes, there is still life in this world of concrete.. !!!

Breaking News... !!!

That day I was at my Hometown Morigaon.. We had some invitations and so me, papa and one uncle were going to receive Maa from her school... Papa was driving the car, uncle was occupying the front seat and I was on the rear.. Maa was waiting at a place near the main road on the right side of our way. As soon as papa stopped the car at the left side of the road, I absent mindedly opened the right side rear door for maa.. But papa was too prompt to warn me,

"Bacha, why have you opened the wrong door? Never do this again... I don't want to be the part of a so called BREAKING NEWS !!!"

I immediately obliged... Actually after the accident that happened 2 years back, in which our parked car was hit by a Tata Magic when maa was still inside, papa has become somewhat more conscious in this regard.. Our car was damaged very badly, but thankfully maa didn't suffer much physical injuries... And in this case papa was right. Okay, there maa was crossing the road, and it was not that much busy at that moment.. But you know, accidents do happen... You can't just predict... And if in case any unfortunate happens, we would surely become the part of a breaking news, at least in the Assamese medias...

In this context I think it would be relevant to quote some points from my Assamese article "DHIKKAR AAMAR MANASIKOTAK !!!" (SHAME ON OUR MENTALITY !!!) which was already published in our GMCH college magazine's latest edition...

"Today I am here with you... I am expressing my views... You are going through my writings... Some of you would agree to my points, some won't and some would be just indifferent to what I am up to... But if somehow tomorrow I just disappear from  this world, suppose victimized by some violent activities, then what will happen ? For most of the media houses I will become a news item... There will be condolence meeting of one minute in my institute Gauhati Medical College & Hospital... There will be demand for justice by various organizations... And after some days, leaving aside some faint memories, most probably most of you will just forget me... Those that will suffer the most will be my family and my close friends... Nobody else... Forget about justice, there is every chance that the culprits will roam free of any convictions... It might also happen that some of my friends might knowingly or unknowingly felicitate my murderers !!! "

This is it... We all are too busy (including me)... Until and unless something happens to our own, we don't have time even to think about the consequences... Leave it... This will just go on.. No point of trying to find the four corners of our own planet Earth while it's actually a globe !!!!

Boys don't cry !!!

Yesterday I met a guy... He had come to GMCH for his wife's treatment.... But by the very short interaction, he will remain in my memory lane for long, may be my whole life....

Actually I was screening some of the blood donors at that time when this guy came to meet me...

"Sir, l need two units of blood for my wife, her condition is serious... Can you kindly make it somewhat faster?"

Although he was trying his best to control himself, there was tears in his eyes... I checked the requisition form which he handed over to me... His wife was in shock... For those who find it difficult to understand, his wife was having uncontrollable bleeding and the doctors were finding it difficult to maintain her blood pressure...  I asked the other donors to wait  for sometime and proceeded towards the concerned section along with him... and as soon as I put my hand over his shoulder to console him saying, "Don't worry, everything will be fine... ", he just cried.... He was unable to control his emotions any more... and though I didn't show anything, it just put some unbearable pressure within the core of my heart...

He was provided the required units of blood in the least possible time and  today around 3 hours back this guy came to meet me to inform that his wife is out of danger now. To be true, his smile expressed everything even before he said anything...

I've come across lots of such kind of incidents till now, but when this man cried for his ailing wife, it was like.. Like something different...  You know, when a man cries for his woman, its really somewhat different !!!