The incident that I am going to mention today is around 2 years old. I was working as a Medical Officer at a blood bank. I was on duty and I was screening the blood donors. One man in his early 40's came to my chamber. He was wearing a full sleeved shirt, but during examination I noticed that he was having a prominent tattoo on his right forearm. From the appearance it could be easily presumed that it was old enough and thus the tattoo was not going to interfere with the blood donation process, I mean the donor was not to be deferred just because of the tattoo. But the interesting fact was that the tattoo was nothing but a girl's name written in blue ink in block capital letters. I was amused and asked him in a friendly way,
"Is that your wife's name?"
He felt uneasy.. Yet he somehow managed to smile and said,
"Don't ask me sir!!! She was my girlfriend long back when I was still a school student, and this is the reason that quite often my wife fights with me... She is not at all happy to have another girl's name written on my forearm..."
To be true, I could relate to the feelings of his wife. I am not going to discuss whether she was doing the right thing by arguing for the same reason again and again, but no wife in this world would like to see another girl's name on her husband's body, that too in the form of a permanent tattoo!!!
I tactfully diverted the topic and finished his examination, but this incident compelled me to think about something very important...
In the developed countries, the parents and teachers are wise enough to provide the teenagers the required information to safeguard themselves. Here we are shy enough even to mention the words "sex education" in front of our kids!!
To all the teenagers reading my post, remember one thing, love is not a crime... It's very natural to feel attracted to somebody or even to fall in love with someone. But beware, never ever try to do something which may have long-term impact on your life. We have seen so many lovebirds falling apart. We have seen so many lives being ruined. Try to avoid physical relations as much as possible.. If someone is interested in you just for your body or 'figure', there is every chance that he or she might feel bored of the same thing after some days or months and you will feel like wasted or used up or left alone. There is every possibility to commit mistakes... Specially for the girls, trust me, teenage pregnancy would never be a good experience to remember!!! You might contact some of the sexually transmitted diseases. You might lose precious study years... Even if you can't resist yourself or your partner, there are always those protective or barrier methods to adopt. And for the boys, just because that girl looks matured enough, just because she was a consenting partner in all those activities need not necessarily provide you immunity, in fact you might find yourself behind bars for your advances with a minor. Another one thing, as a teenager you might consider your infatuation towards someone to be your 'true love' and later you might repent!!
There are so many more things to discuss regarding the same, but it won't be possible to cover all those in a single update.
I am not trying to discourage anybody, all I am trying to say is that everything has a right age to start...
You know, love is blind... Adolescence itself can be a confusing time... But whatever happens, remember one thing... Prevention is better than cure and by now you probably know to some extent where, how and what you should prevent!!!
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Regards,
Dr. Kumar Partha Pratim.
www.partha.pratimz.in
